What I’m reading and listening to

Been a bit since I’ve made one of these.

Still Alice A book about a woman who gets early onset dementia. Very depressing, 10/10 would not recommend reading it. The whole time I was worried I was getting divorced from Brian and my kids hated me. This was for book club. It did bring up some interesting questions, like would you get tested to know if you’re predisposed. I am unsure.

When Breath Becomes Air I have a list of books I’ve saved to Amazon I’ve been meaning to read. Audio books in the car is my new thing, and I also finally figured out connecting to the military library via an app, so I perused my list to find one that was available via the library. This was one… except that it is another depressing story of getting sick too young. Mind you, I’m reading these while my husband is away, which makes it that much more difficult to not think WE HAVE NO TIME LEFT TOGETHER. Anyway, this is about a doctor who gets lung cancer and his balance with leading the rest of his life not knowing how much time he has left. Keep pursuing doctor career? Spend all time with family? I thought it would delve more into what makes a life a life, it did a little but it was mostly about the balance part. Anyway, another 10/10 would not recommend.

Brittney vs. Spears Documentary As Brian would say, there’s two sides to every story and we’re only hearing one. But man, is this a compelling story against a money hungry father. And conservatorship is nasty, something that one wouldn’t even think could exist in America. If everything that was said was true, she was essentially a slave.

Indiana Jones and the Raiders of the Lost Ark How long is it before you stop finding stuff out about your significant other that you didn’t know? Apparently Brian is a big fan of the Indiana Jones’ movies. So while he was gone I thought I’d start them (Can’t remember if I posted this, but I was looking for pop culture series to catch up on while he was away. My family wasn’t big on watching movies. I started with Lord of the Rings. We also did Star Wars back in quarantine). This is such a boy movie. Not a fan.

Maid: Based on a book, this woman who was impregnated young and by an abusive boyfriend tries to leave him and make it on her own. I did not like it, because while I guess the choices she makes could be believable, some of them are outright really dumb (like going back to him while this very smart, handsome, funny guy is trying to date her). She seems too smart and emotionally intelligent to do that. I feel like in real life it’s definitely plausible women make that choice, but her character is very much built to make you believe she wouldn’t. As a series it hooked me, so I guess it did what it was supposed to.

Love Hard A Movie about a woman who flies to some guy she’s been talking to online dating for Christmas and it turns out she’s been catfished (his pictures and profile were actually of his best friend). I’ve never actually shown up to a date that’s done this, but I have found out that people were not who they said they were. So of course the story line intrigued me, and you can predict how it ends, but it’s really cute and funny.

Alec Baldwin’s interview with George Stephanopolous via YouTubeTV- It was very interesting to hear his angle and his claims of innocence. I told Brian that I’d never feel comfortable pointing a gun at anyone, regardless of how many times I checked it wasn’t loaded and I’d never get myself to do it. Brian thinks that Alec was irresponsible for not checking the gun status out himself. Either way, a very difficult tragedy that will haunt Alec for a long long time.

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Ho’omaluhia in the clouds

I took Brian to Ho’omaluhia for his first, my third time. I did check the weather the day before, but turns out it was definitely going to rain. Looking back at these pictures, they actually came out really cool. But at the time, we were walking around in the rain and it was cloudy, and it just felt less magical being there.

Brian tried to remind me he can’t pick his days off and he was just happy to be with me.

We did discover this cool bridge while meandering. We did a lot more walking than I normally have through here. (usually I drove).

Anyway, still highly recommend this place. It’s so peaceful and very accessible.

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Second time is definitely not the charm (so far)

Now that Brian’s back, I’m trying to slowly get him to do things. Friday after Thanksgiving was supposed to have big North Shore swells, so we took a chance and took Jess with us to go watch. We stopped at Laniakea in hopes of seeing turtles, but it looks like the trend is either big swells and no turtles or small swells and turtles.

The beach was way busier this time around and there were a lot more opportunities for pictures.

Jess is a big fan of boogie boarding and appreciated these guys for making it look badass.

I think I’m making this experience out to be less exciting than it was. I really loved going back. I think the waves weren’t maybe quite as big, but really what difference does an extra two feet make when they look gigantic.

Brian slept while we were there. It’s kinda just how recuperating goes. I was thankful to have Jess there and surfers to keep me occupied.

Then we took off and tried to find turtles further down the coast where I thought my Aunt had said they saw a lot, but we didn’t find any. Then we took off for Dole Plantation, strictly to get Dole Whip (no touristy other parts). If you recall, last time I went to dole I didn’t get any camera pics because my SD card corrupted. I was successful this time!

I tried the chocolate coating this time around and that was the wrong choice. I think I’ve just been lucking out picking the right choice the first time! That doesn’t mean this was terrible, I just don’t think Chocolate is a good match. I think the fruit topping is, though.

I guess overall this was a great day, except we went on an adventure for turtles and didn’t see any.

The Dole Whip was amazing, as usual, and I just made the wrong choice.

There wasn’t a lot of traffic and we were able to find parking relatively easily. I hear this can be rough, but both times it has not yet been… it might be a benefit of COVID or timing, unclear which.

Maybe my expectations are just being set too high. Anyway, stay tuned for another post about the second round being not so great.

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Duke’s x 2

Duke’s is a pretty famous restaurant in Waikiki. It sits right on Waikiki beach and in homage to Duke Kahanamoku.

Duke Paoa Kahanamoku was born August 24, 1890 in Honolulu, Hawaii, the first of six sons and three daughters of Duke and Julia Kahanamoku.
He grew up in carefree Waikiki with the ocean as his playground, doing what he loved – mostly swimming, surfing, canoeing and bodysurfing.

At the age of 21 he won his first Olympic gold medal, then went on to represent the United States in the Olympics for 20 years, winning not only medals but the hearts of people all over the world. He is remembered as a swimmer not just for remarkable speed, but for his grace in the water, his good humor, and his sportsmanship.

Brian and I are very fond of eating at restaurant that sit on the water, and this restaurant has a ton of great reviews. The reservations also book THREE months out… I originally reserved it for August, but as we know shit hit the fan and Brian left. So I booked for after he was supposedly getting home. Correction, I booked for three weeks after he was supposed to be getting home to “play it safe”. Well, you guessed it, they were delayed by a full four weeks… BUT thankfully I ALSO booked one for four weeks after he got back, just in case. This ended up with me having back to back weekend reservations for Duke’s (How lucky!). I invited my friend Jess to join with me and she graciously accepted.

Jess and I’s experience was FANTASTIC. We went early to walk around Waikiki and stumbled upon a Hawaiian show, which I want to make a point to specifically go see sometime.

We roamed around Waikiki, got caught in an anti vax march (if you see pictures and we’re in them, we’re just trying to get through, I swear!!) and ended up at Duke’s. We had an amazing table in the corner of the patio over looking a smaller small bites bar and live band patio. Our waitress was great, she was attentive but not overwhelmingly so. She asked if I wanted my cocktail (guava jamz) on the rocks or slushy (on the rocks was my choice). I got the macadamia nut crusted fish. It was an amazing night.

If you recall, Jess came with me to celebrate my birthday as well, and I had prefaced to her that the place we bought the cake from we’d only need one slice. So when we went to get the Hula Pie at Duke’s (10/10 recommend), I told our waitress the other cake story and had just though hula pie would be a lot smaller size, so I said Jess and I should get our own pieces. I talked about it with such confidence that the waitress thought I knew what I was talking about, except that I didn’t at all. When the pie arrived, it turns out it was HUGE and Jess and I could’ve totally split a piece. This is why I’m laughing so hard in this picture. The waitress said “Well, it’s mostly whipped cream” (spoiler alert, just LOOK at it, it’s NOT mostly whipped cream).

Regardless, we both did a solid amount of damage to our individual slices which come with a specific plate and fork/shovel (it’s a big spork) engraved with “hula pie” on the spoon. I know some people in the family who could finish this on their own, for sure. It was incredibly delicious. It’s macadamia nut ice cream, an oreo crust, fudge, whipped cream… my mouth is watering again.

Anyway, I’ve been learning that my second time around experiences have not been as great as my first round. I’m not sure if it’s beginners luck or what. But I returned the next week with Brian. We had a seat a row back and on the pool side… so while I was trying to take pics of the sunset there were half naked old men (Nothing against them enjoying their lives but they don’t make good picture aesthetics). Then the band was there again, but they were really loud so I was also kinda glad we weren’t near them, but it was that or screaming kids at the pool. My waitor didn’t ask if I wanted it on the rocks, so it came as a slushy… I ordered the slow roasted prime rib instead of the fish, and I wasn’t all that impressed. I did get a free hula pie because I mentioned I was there celebrating my birthday in the reservations. Brian got a Mai Tai.

Anyway, I thought round one was a way better experience for a lot of small reasons, I guess. It’s been hard having multiple experiences of things, because I’m finding the next sets aren’t as good as the first for one reason or another. It’s very weird. Maybe it’s a sign I should stop experiencing things without Brian, but I don’t have much of a choice. Maybe it’s the magic of experiencing things the first time? Anyway, more posts to come about this.

I convinced Brian to walk around after a bit to let our stomachs settle. We went back to the Royal Hawaiian Center and were treated to their Christmas decorations.

I would definitely go back to Duke’s and know better what to choose and make sure happens I guess. Idk that we could really pick our table… The food in and of itself was enough to bring me back.

Maybe I’ll just get it to go?

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Homecoming and Thanksgiving

I’m back after what felt like a brief hiatus but maybe was longer than I thought? I have been really busy relaxing and most importantly enjoying having Brian back.

Brian came home the day before Thanksgiving. So while I was prepping for that meal I was also prepping for his homecoming (filling the fridge with Beer, making a sign, cleaning then making a mess and cleaning again, baking cookies for homecoming).

Homecoming is as chaotic as it sounds. Millions of kids eager for their dad’s to get home. Waiting for the boat to be slowly pulled in by the tug and to dock and then the bridge put up… I think it was hours between me waiting at Missing Man monument. The first two pictures above are from that point, it’s the best point in my opinion to watch them first come in. There is a cafe and bathrooms. No shade at all (recall this is where I became a lobster that one time). However, there is a tree that you can take cover while you wait. My friend Caitlyn made a last minute decision to make a sign, so I joined her. I think it came out ok all things considered (I made one on both sides, but you’ll have to wait for the Christmas card the see the other side). Brian commented the bright letters were hard to see, so I’ve made note for next time 😉

I managed to get in the car and drive just a couple MPH over speed limit (bases are really strict) to get to the pier to watch them pull in with the lei on.

There were sandwiches and drinks and cookies me and another family made. However I didn’t eat because I ate at the cafe earlier, and your stomach is kinda in knots anyway. I bought a submarine cookie cutter. Turns out Hawaii heat and humidity is not a good match for sugar cookies, but we managed. The periscopes fall off pretty easily, something to keep in mind for future transiting.

Finally, after what felt like hours (I think maybe two in seriousness), the sailors started coming off. What emotional chaos! So many moments I captured and I won’t post for privacy reasons, but there are a couple that give you the gist.

It was certainly good practice, but it was a huge photography challenge! I was able to get Caitlyn to capture ours. I don’t think it’s all that exciting, but you can be the judge.

I definitely cried upon hugging him, to which he said “It’s only been a month”. *cue eye roll*

After this it’s still not over, and it was another 45 minutes of him making sure the boat was good before we could go home.

There are sailors who need to stay even longer to shut down the reactor. Then some have “pull in duty” where they can’t even go home until the next day (the boat is never completely empty of sailors for obvious reasons).

The next day we had Thanksgiving. I made the turkey in our Traeger grill and it came out OUTSTANDING. We hosted one friend who’s husband is deployed as well. I have stuffing and the turkey NAILED. I also made apple crisp and mashed potatoes, gravy, and cranberry sauce. My friend brought green beans and sweet potato and a pecan pie. I started the Turkey really early, I was really anxious about the day and cooking it for some reason… well it ended up being ready by 11:30am so we kinda had Thanksgiving brunch. Honestly it worked out. Once we finished, we played a board game (Burgle brothers, it’s my fave) and then Jess left Brian and I to relax for the remaining afternoon/evening.

We also made some family phone calls. Super thankful to have Brian home for a bit.

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